Wired Differently

As I was listening to the YouTube video for Week 2 of the Uninvited OBS,  I was riding along I -65 in the Escape, heading to Nashville. Since I don't have headphones or earbuds, Gary was forced to listen also.  After it ended, he said, "Men and women are just wired differently."

Lysa discussed past hurts today and referred to things she remembered from middle school.  Junior high for me was hard because we had just moved to Mt. Vernon. Trying to fit in with what I perceived to be already established circles of friends was hard.  Add to that a mother who had resisted the move and was making our lives miserable as we were trying to adjust, and the total was an unhappy, overly-sensitive girl trying to find her place in a new environment.

I was thinking about something that happened after lunch one day when my new group of friends and I were signing autograph books, Gary made the comment, "Men and women are just wired differently.  Who remembers things that happened to hurt your feeling in middle school?  I don't remember anything like that."

Well, no.  Gary doesn't remember those types of things anyway.  He isn't that type of person. His next question, though, was a little more thought-provoking.  Do people remember those hurtful things that they have said years ago? I don't know.  Do people realize that what they have said has been hurtful? Maybe bullies do.  But could ordinary people make a comment that unintentionally hurts someone, and the speaker doesn't realize just how hurtful it has been?

We hear so often that until we walk in someone else's shoes, we don't know what that person isgoing through.  We are reminded on FB daily that we never know what a person has experienced before we interact with her or her that affects the reactions we receive.

So I agree.  Men and women are wired differently.  But I can take it one step further and add that all of us have different wires that connect and re-connect depending on past experiences, emotions, and current circumstances.

Something to ponder on this drive to Nashville.....