Definitely inappropriate? Rude too?

Yesterday we took Cooper with us while his mommy, daddy, and little sister went to the doctor.  After we returned two pairs of jeans that were too tight around my knees to Kohls, we decided to walk down to my jewelry store for a rings cleaning.  I had noticed earlier in the week that my engagement ring had gunky stuff around it, stuck around the stones and in the crevices.  

We walked into the jewelry store and were met by a friendly customer service person.  First she took my rings and checked them with the magnifier to be sure the stones were secure.  We checked out the rings in the case - big sale going on -- and Cooper sat in one of the chairs in front of the display case.  

After she placed the rings in the cleaner, she returned to us and explained the sales that were happening, just in time for the holidays.  I noticed that Gary's attention was drifting...naturally!  We weren't in the market for a new ring, plus it was more interesting to watch the other shoppers walking past the store.

After her talk, she focused her attention on Cooper and asked him how he was doing and just general conversation with a 4 year old.  I asked him if he could tell her about the new person at his house and he said "I have a new baby sister."

Usual responses - "How sweet!  What is her name?  She is very tiny, isn't she?  Are you a good big brother?"  He was wearing his BIG BRO shirt too so he showed her that and she commented.

Then the conversation changed.

She said, "Your baby sister came out of your mommy's tummy, didn't she?"

Cooper just looked at her.  He nodded meekly.

She said, "She came out of your mommy's tummy, just like you did." 

Cooper just looked at her.  He nodded meekly.

I wanted to say to something...words escaped me right them.  I was hoping the rings would finish and we could get out of there.  I looked at Gary, and he was still watching shoppers.

She said, "You probably don't remember what it was like when you came out of your mommy's tummy, do you?"

Cooper just looked at her.  He shook his head.

She said, "Of course not.  You were just too little to remember that and your sister probably won't remember that either. OH!  The rings are done!"

She cleaned off the rings.  She put them under the dryer.  She inspected both of them.  She re-did my engagement ring because it still had a little bit of the gunk on it.

No more talk about childbirth.

She returned my rings. I thanked her.  She told Cooper to enjoy his little sister and be a good big brother.  We left.

Later I mentioned it to Gary and he said he kinda heard what she was talking about but really didn't pay too much attention.

First of all...Cooper is 4.  Yes, he knew that Lynnlee was in Mommy's tummy but discussing it with a sales clerk in a jewelry store seemed to be quite inappropriate to me.  How did she know how much he knew or didn't know about the childbirth process?  It should be his parents' decision about the details to tell him...or not.  And to ask him if he remembered what it was like to be in his mommy's tummy or to come out? Ewwwwww....why would anyone ask that?

Second of all.....what if this had been two years ago.  What if Tessa had been with us?  What if she said she had a new baby brother because Owen had come to live with them? What if the clerk had asked the same questions of her?

Actually I could have handled that situation better than I did with Cooper.  I know that if I tell anyone about this, I will be hearing "Well, I would have just said....." or "I would have stopped her immediately and said ...."  Honestly, in retrospect I probably would have also. But I was so stunned by her questions and comments that nothing came to my mind to say at that moment.

I still think it was inappropriate and rude.